Trauma and Abuse Counselling
Tel: 0704 090 1520 Email: ClearingThoughts@gmail.com
I counsel a broad range of issues with a special interest in Trauma and Abuse. Individuals who have experienced trauma; childhood sexual abuse, neglect, rejection or abandonment, low self esteem, emotional/physical abuse such as manipulation, sexual assault, separation, divorce, which has left a person with low self confidence in trying to trust people again.
Some clients have felt depressed or anxious and contemplated suicide at times feeling a sense of loss or despair during their life involving various incidents, childhood school experiences such as bullying or current issues within the work place, experience life events which leave them feeling alone, vunerable and helpless unable to cope or can be traumatic to the point the client experiences reoccuring fragmented flashbacks to Readjustment to being an independent individual again after a relationship break up or after a period of separation can lead to personal identity problems; these can include starting a new relationship or commitment with a partner; intimacy issues associated with trust after an adult or childhood trauma; managing difficult personal relationships, grief associated with different times of the year including on going issues with family members, memories they are struggling to process alone from a recent or historical crisis.
These experiences can sometimes leave a person with a mixture of feelings and thoughts covering some issues of trauma involving self-harm; bereavement; anger; guilt; shame; depression; anxiety; dissociative state (as though the trauma was happening to somebody else leaving a sense of numbness as though in shock or blank thoughts); nightmares; flashbacks; loneliness; insecure; fearful; isolated; suicidal; withdrawn; distressed and many more.
Client confidentiality is very important to me working in this field, in return as a Humanistic counsellor, I provide support, compassion, patience, awareness and understanding about the constant on going difficulties you face and how bringing these complex issues to counselling could be difficult for you. I work with both male/female clients, students and couples, offering psychotherapuetic counselling to clients who have experienced either physical, verbal, emotional or psychological abuse and distress in their lives from violence or are involved in a difficult relationship.
What is Humanistic counselling? Humanistic Therapies focus on self-development, growth and responsibilities. They seek to help individuals recognise their strengths, creativity and choice in the ‘here and now’.
Couples Counselling Managing a relationship in the aftermath of a personal trauma can be very difficult. Especially when current problems are being avoided or ignored by one partner in the relationship and it is hard to carry on alone with all the responsibilities of every day life to cope with. It is challenging to try and want this relationship to continue in the hope some how it will all work out eventually, if only you could turn the clock back and start again. The reality is you cannot, but instead live in hope it will change as we lead busy life styles filled with responsiblities and stresses that caused the partnership to drift apart. I offer a service to support both of you. Difficulties can happen at any life stage in a relationship.
I practice in Central Crawley (West Sussex), Oxted & Reigate (East Surrey), and Sevenoaks (West Kent). Each location is in easy walking of the train station or public transport. Alternatively by car, free parking is on site or nearby.
Training, Qualifications & Experience
I qualified with an Advanced Diploma in Humanistic Counselling (Accredited) by BACP; while extending my clinical training with a Certificate in Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) and Rape. I have completed advanced psychotherapy specialist training in trauma work, focusing on the impact trauma has on the mind and body. Including experience of working with people who find coping with daily life an issue or are in a relationship/family find they struggle to manage the conflict of a past trauma in relation to a current problem. Followed by further training in Trauma Therapy (how the mind interacts with body trauma) in relation to complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) means when an individual is still experiencing the trauma as though it had just happened even when it had occured months or years earlier. Some couples request to work together as an alternative to working separately. As a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), I work to their standards and code of ethics.
Previously worked as a counsellor for Sexual Abuse/Rape organisation; a Christian Counselling Service; Mental Health organisation; Male Rape/Abuse organisation and as a student counsellor in a college working with both adolescents 16+ and mature students.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and Betrayals
- Anger Management
- Avoidant Personality Disorder
- Borderline Personality Disorder
- Child Related Issues
- Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/ME
- Couples Counselling
- Domestic Violence
- Emotional Abuse
- Family Issues
- Generalised Anxiety
- Low Self-Confidence
- Low Self-Esteem
- Physical Abuse
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship Issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self Harm
- Separation and Divorce
- Sexual Abuse
- Sexual Issues
- Work Related Issues
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Clinical Diagnostic Assessment for Dissociative States is available, contact me for further details.
- Critical Incident Debriefing
- Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) previously known as Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)
- Family Relationships/Parenting Issues
- Post Traumatic Stress (PTS)
- Ritual Abuse (RA)/ Organised Abuse (RO)
- Humanistic Therapies
- Other Therapies
- Behavioural Therapy
- Cognitive Therapy
- Sensorimotor Therapy
- Somatic Trauma Therapy
Individual (16+) and Couples counselling is available for those who have experienced the impact of Trauma or Abuse, sessions last 50 minutes and cost £70 for individuals and couples. I would arrange an initial FREE meeting for 25 minutes to discuss if we could work together. Evening and weekend appointments are available, either on a weekly or fortnightly basis.
Counselling is for anyone and everyone; you do not need to have had a life trauma or any form of abuse to attend. Change is always possible, there is no shame trying.